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Health

Welcome to the health section of iFace. Here you can find out how other young people deal with health issues linked to their disfigurement. If you have a story that you'd like to tell, or if you'd like add a new FAQ or issue to the forum, click on the 'add your story' button at the bottom of the green box on the right and send us an email.

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Having an Op

They say you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. However, if I did have the choice, I'd choose the one I've got.  My family has stood by me through thick and thin, through crying when I'm fed up with being me, to laughing when I've achieved something.

Recently they have been there a lot, because this summer I am going to have an BIG operation and we've had to go through numerous appointments with the surgeon and also the clinical psychologist.  I know that I wouldn't have been able to agree to the operation without my parents and family's support. They've been great.

A couple of days ago, my mum and I went to the psychologist, and there was some bad news. We'd arranged for the operation to be on 2nd July 2007, only now the surgeon was going to be on holiday all July, so he was only able to do the operation in August or before July. However, I am doing my GCSE's this year, and we thought that we wouldn't be able to do it before July because of my exams. But I didn't want to wait until August to have this operation because I've waited two years already and don't want to wait any longer.

So I said that if I couldn't have the op before July, I wouldn't have it.  So, we were in a bit of a pickle. However, my mum's auntie works with the AQA examination board, and after an hour of talking on the phone, she was able to tell us if I'd have an exam during the last week of June and she's 99% sure that I won't have.  I don't know what I'd have done if I'd had to wait until August. But it's the fact that my parents did all they could to make my wish come true. O.K, they may be pains sometimes, but you'd be nowhere without them.

I think that I've learnt an important lesson this week. Every cloud has a silver lining. Even when you think that the whole world's turned against you, something good will come of it. Now, I have less time to wait to get the face I always wanted!

Jessica, aged 16

 

9 comments

Posted by martell
11th May 07 @ 16:18
i think its great that your family have been there for you... and im glad you're happy with the result of what sounds like a rollercoast ride -- i have been in a very similar situation myself.. well done for pulling through xx

Posted by strawberry_bunny
30th May 07 @ 21:13
I know like how frustrating it can be...to have your surgeon happen to be on holiday when you're supposed to be having your operation..it sounds like u had a hard time but when you have someone to support you...it's so much easier!! especially your family...that's so lovely!

Posted by *Alice*
16th Nov 07 @ 20:30
Ive had loads of operations...and its so nice to have your family there!

Posted by BarbieGirl
16th Nov 07 @ 20:31
Silly surgeon =P throw pie at hiimm!! or her.. LOL =) im glad yourr family are there for yuu =] -hugs-

Posted by livvy2007
19th Nov 07 @ 18:18
I only hate the ingection to put me to sleep (i hate ingections) but my hospital supporters are really kind and my family are always there for me! (love G.O.S.H)

Posted by BlueEyedBecks
7th Dec 07 @ 12:25
You are a brave soul
and I admire how you are a strong person

I have a couple of really close friends
who are there when I need them - and they're all fab
not forgetting the family too, they're great too :)

It's lovely when they all ask how you are doing and
are there to put a smile on your facee! =D that means alot

Posted by c.melissa.c
26th Mar 08 @ 22:05
blimy operations i hav had lots and im only 13 years old my fir stb op was when i was about to and since io was 2 i hav had 15 ops n i hav anova 1 dis yea.ppl say tht im reli brave for what i doo n wat i hav dun but d fing is im proud that i hav a chaning face and no1 but no1 will tell me different bcoz i will not eva let dem
evry 1 whus reds dis b brave wat ever is wrong wiv ya body every1 iz specil but gess wot us lot r extra extra special

Posted by cheekymonkey
25th Jan 09 @ 12:39
I think we all need to be proud of who we are. Don't dwell on the bad times...look forward to the good times...sure its hard...but look at it this way...not one other person in the world can have gone through what we've gone through and come out smiling on the other side...they wouldnt be brave enough...and I for one am proud to be different!

Posted by colettes
4th Mar 11 @ 22:27
hearing how your family are there for you really put a smile on my face, i kow what its like when your family want to be there but simply cant. last year i had yet more surgery, but most of my family were with my mum on the other side of the county in a hospital there becasue she had cancer, so i was pretty much all on my own, it was horrible, and i couldnt wait to get out! thank goodness i was only there for a couple of weeks otherwise i think i would have had a complete breakdown!
your family are such an important support to have!



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