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Out & About

Welcome to the Out and About section of iFace. Here you can find out what other young people with disfigurement are getting up to! Have you got something to say? Why not suggest a forum post or new FAQ by clicking on the 'add your story' button at the bottom of the green box on the right.

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Going swimming

When I was about 12 years old I was swimming with a few friends, attempting to dive into the deep end, but failing miserably. I got out and kept trying, when I was standing on the side practicing my dives I turned around and saw about 4 teenagers laughing at me. I've been swimming hardly ever since then.
 
I have a birthmark on the back on my leg and I've hated it ever since I was old enough to know what it was.
 
I've been in and out of consultation rooms deciding whether or not to have surgery, which will leave me with a scar.
 
I was referred to people but was never completely happy with what they told me. So I decided not to have surgery and went to the 'Nhs Camoflauge' people instead. They had creams which completely matched the colour of my skin and when I put it on it looked like I had no discolourment at all.
 
Nearly four years on from the insecure 12 year old I once was, the past few months I've been having counselling sessions with this amazing woman.
 
She makes me feel so good about myself, and every other week when I see her she sets me challenges, such as;
Ask my close friends what they thought of my birthmark the 1st and 2nd time they saw it
Walk around the house with the camoflauge cream on and see how I feel, etc.
 
Last week I built up the courage to go swimming. I was a bit nervous at first but when I was in the pool and getting out I just thought of all the things my councellor had taught me, and why would I even care what other people thought? I was Sarah, and thats all I could of been, with or without a birthmark.
 
Sarah, aged 15
 

 

6 comments

Posted by emily4785
28th Feb 08 @ 18:34
yes some people laue at me but just say i am good looking but your not . i have a birthmark to





emily aged 12

Posted by BlueEyedBecks
6th Mar 08 @ 21:05
I hate swimming
because people just think
'oh my god...what she doing in this swimming pool?!'
- nice people, aren't they?!

I prefer going swimming in a non-public one!

Posted by cheekymonkey
8th Mar 08 @ 20:39
theyre only staring at u cos theyre jus jealous that youve got the courage to go out and flaunt yourself - if they were you they wouldnt have the guts! Just be proud of yourself and be positive!
you could always say to them - at least i look good in a bikini! :)

Posted by HeartBroken
9th Oct 08 @ 22:16
Your Birthmark in a part of you, those girls shouldnt have made you feel bad and small,ive had lots of people laugh at me before and i just take a deep breath and stun them with whatever im doing (with diving just amaze them with the best dive you can do).Like what i say "the best things happen when you try to make it happen".

Posted by Becky :)
7th Mar 09 @ 09:32
i have a facial birthmark, and i used to love swimming when i was younger but i've never been since year 8 onwards because i started to cover my mark now its become a constant thing im checking and worrying about. i feel as if im fake because the new people i meet dont know im hiding a mark. i hate it and hope one day ill have the courage to not wear makeup.

your a real inspiration to people who struggle with this :)

Posted by MariceM
19th May 09 @ 13:51
I have a facial birthmark, and i used to love going swimming with my friends, but this one time i went there was a few boys there and they came up to me and started saying things about it.
So i don't go swimming anymore. I've been given some make-up from the NHS but i don't think that it covers it up enough, and i can still see it. It's not actually a birthmark, its a low flow vascular malformation right buccal space, oropharynx and nasopharynx, but if anybody ever asks i just say its a birthmark.I hate it,but have been put on the waiting list for an operation. There is only a 50% chance that it will work though. I just want it gone.

But i think that you just shouldn't care what other people think, and should have confidence in yourself (:



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