aged 11-21 and not a member?
register here
search iface for:
SEARCH

HOME
INTERESTS
HEALTH
Forums
Personal stories
FAQ
Video
Audio
SCHOOL
OUT & ABOUT
CAREERS
FAMILIES
RELATIONSHIPS
MEDIA PLAYER
VIDEO & AUDIO
ESSENTIALS
WHO IS IFACE
HOW DOES IFACE WORK
FEEDBACK
ETIQUETTE

USERNAME
PASSWORD
forgotten your details? click here

Health

Welcome to the health section of iFace. Here you can find out how other young people deal with health issues linked to their disfigurement. If you have a story that you'd like to tell, or if you'd like add a new FAQ or issue to the forum, click on the 'add your story' button at the bottom of the green box on the right and send us an email.

Note: Unfortunately, Changing Faces is currently unable to continue to provide its discussion forums. We are looking into alternatives to put in place as quickly as possible.

In the meantime, why not check out discussion forums on Facebook?

I am about to have a really big operation soon that is going to change the way I look. I am a bit nervous about it - do other people feel like this?

Yes. Lots of young people can relate to how you are feeling. It is normal to feel nervous, scared, apprehensive or excited and these feelings may change or get stronger as the time gets nearer.

Sometimes it can help to know a bit more about the operation so you feel more prepared.  Why not take a list of questions along next time you see your surgeon or next specialist and go through together so that you are clear about what will happen? E.g.

  • Will you have any dressings, drips or drains attached?
  • Will there be any swelling and if so when will it go down?
  • Will you have any stitches?
  • How soon after the op will you be able to see your new appearance.


If you're worried about seeing your new appearance in the mirror for the first time, decide beforehand who you want with you for support.  Don't feel pressured into looking before you feel ready.  You can choose when to look.  Just let the nurses and your surgeon know when the time is right for you.

At first you might feel surprised or shocked - either because your appearance doesn't look so different or you find it difficult to recognise yourself.  Remember it will take a while for the swelling to go down and the stitches to come out. 

Adjusting to a new appearance doesn't happen overnight so just take things one day at a time.   If you're finding it hard and you're not sure how to talk to the people closest to you, you can always contact Changing Faces  on 0845 4500 275 or email michelleb@changingfaces.org.uk.

 

4 comments

Posted by BlueEyedBecks
21st Aug 07 @ 19:14
Oooh yes I always get rather nervous about having a big op but honestly I think everyone would be nervous having an op whether it's their first or their thirty first op...it's not a nice thing to experience.

After my ops, i'm always quite shocked at how I look...it takes me sometime to get use to it, seeing as after most operations I look different in many areas of my face.

Posted by SuperS
17th Feb 09 @ 13:02
I always used to got nervous about operations, it's expected. I'd always be surprised about my new appearance and it would take time to get used to. Now, I'm quite accustomed to this mug of mine.

Posted by camroc
27th Feb 09 @ 17:23
I have been throu it all before and trust me it will be ok

Posted by xx-lisa-xx
28th Feb 09 @ 18:19
everyone gets nervous about operations.... i was severly burned as a baby and have had lots of operations my last one been only 2 weeks ago im currently in hospital just now for another op on tuesday as my skin graph has been infected and had a lot of problems.... u just have to keep tellen ureself that it is going to be best in the long run.



text: normal | larger | large
want advice?
what you're saying
"aww, that last comment is soooo cute!! well, theres a girl at school who is..."
read more

"i feel like all my friends and peers understand me. some, i have known all..."
read more

"I've just started high school in september. to be honest, as everyone norma..."
read more

"haha :D great idea :)"
read more

"hearing how your family are there for you really put a smile on my face, i ..."
read more

add your story

A Public Zone production