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No one else in my school has anything different about them. I feel like I stand out and that people don't want to talk to me because of my cleft lip and palate.
Everyone wants to feel accepted by their fellow students. After all, you're going to spend enough time together over the next few years.
What about your year group...
- Are they friendly and co-operative?
- Are they accepting of people's backgrounds, cultures, race and physical differences?
- How do you react if they ask a question or make a comment about your cleft lip and palate?
It's likely that most people will notice so if you feel confident enough you could take the initiative and say something like, "I see you noticed my lip. It's ok. It's called a cleft lip and palate and it doesn't bother me."
Try noticing something about them too so there's not an awkward silence after you've explained about your cleft lip and palate. Something like, "Where did you get those earrings. They're amazing!" or "Are we in the same class for biology?"
If you can practise doing this, you will get the initial curiosity out of the way and you will also seem like a very relaxed and approachable person.
16th Nov 07 @ 20:31
16th Nov 07 @ 20:55
Also i really want children when im a bit older but im so afraid they will have what i have. I keep thinking to myslef i am normal but i think of all the operations i have had and visits to the child development centre and it all comes back . No matter how many ops i have or how much makeup i wear it will never go away its me its who i am but i cant seem to accept that and need help ! xxx Is there anyone else who feels the same ? x
4th Dec 07 @ 18:01