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School

Welcome to the school section of iFace. You can read here what other young people with disfigurement think about school - good and bad - and how they deal with difficult situations (check out the forum for loads of great advice on how to beat the bullies). We'd like to hear from you too. Click on the 'add your story' button at the bottom of the green box on the right and send us an email - you can suggest new forum posts and FAQs too.

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Why do people bully others?

People who bully others are generally really sad and lonely people. Hard as it is to believe they feel really bad about themselves in some way and rather than deal with this they decide it would be better to make someone else feel really rubbish about themselves instead. Thing is they nearly always succeed and end up making others life a misery. It is also worth remembering that 'bullies' will always target something that they think you will feel bad about. Keep saying to yourself that they are saying these things  to get a reaction from you and above all remember that its not because you are in any way a bad person or deserve the comments or that the comments are true. Bullies on the inside although they will never, never admit it are sad and lonely people who make other people suffer to make themselves feel better.

 

 

3 comments

Posted by BlueEyedBecks
12th Nov 08 @ 21:04
I've been bullied and that was on public transport and I noticed the people who were bullying me were, well they actually weren't anything intersting.. they just swore, smelt awful and all got off on the Council Estate, where there sometimes will be someone waiting for them, with a ciggarette in their mouths and lots of babies round them and a bad attitude, so you can deffintley see where that child gets their behaviour from. Also the school these children go to (who were on my bus journey), is the school that has alot of suspended children that go to, because no other school will except... so you could imagine, not such a wonderful school to attend to.
So there's the anwser to that one.

Posted by SuperS
27th Jan 09 @ 18:33
I was bullied at one point in my life and I remember being told that most bullies have been bullied in some way or another. I eventually found this out to be true. The thing is, becoming a bully as result of being bullied is no excuses for making another person's life difficult.

Posted by thunderw00t
3rd Jun 09 @ 20:10
I'm not sure that they are always lonely, as they generally only ever bully in large groups, but I certainly agree that they feel bad in themselves. I would also go further based on experiences I have had. As a general rule, bullies tend to be those who do badly on an academic level. That is not to say that less-academic people are all bullies, but I think that it probably makes bullies feel better about doing badly in important matters if they hurt people over trivial matters.



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