Welcome to the families section of iFace. If you have a brother or sister with a disfigurement and would like to talk about what it's like, or if you have a disfigurement and your parents have given you some brilliant (or awful!) advice, this is the place for you. Don't forget the 'Add your story' button at the bottom of the green box on the right if you have ideas for new forum subjects.
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My brother gets a lot more attention, he's having a big operation next month and I just know everything will be about him. I feel really mean thinking this.
It's normal to feel lots of different things when you have a brother or sister who has a visible difference, e.g. left out, worried, relieved, angry or guilty. The important thing is not to keep your feelings to yourself. You need to talk to an adult you can trust.
Do you get any time alone with your Mum or Dad when you can talk to them about how you're feeling, e.g. on the way to the supermarket or walking to school? If not, is there a family friend, one of your friends' parents or a teacher you can chat to?
You could suggest that you have time alone with your Mum or Dad once in a while. This could be a monthly shopping trip, going on the local climbing wall or a regular chat at the end of each day or week.
www.cafamily.org.uk/siblings has information that you could show your parents which explains how you and other teenagers in a similar situation to you may be feeling. www.sibs.org.uk has lots of information and support for teenagers who have a brother or sister who has a disfigurement or another disability.